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What Your Wedding Photographer Secretly Wants You To Know

You’re planning your wedding for the first time [and hopefully the last] and you’re doing your best with the information you have. You’ve been to a couple weddings, your parents give you some tips, and that’s about it. There are a couple rookie mistakes you can make, and this photographer is here to tell you what they are.


1. Clear up your space: I have seen some dirty, dirty rooms. Your wedding photos can’t be clean and beautiful with everyone’s trash strewn in the background. Tell your bridesmaids to stay organized and keep all their things in another room. Pictures without the clutter are always 100x better.

2. Have “a person:” When it comes to family photos, chances are that your photographer doesn’t know everybody. Especially if your family situation is complicated, it’s smart to have a person who knows people on both sides of the family, that way the photographer can focus on getting the picture instead of wondering if everyone is present.

3. Always have a meal for your photographer: We get hungry too! Provide your photographer with a plate of the same food you provide your guests, and don’t send them off to eat in the kitchen.

4. Tell your guests to put down the phones and cameras: You didn’t pay Uncle Carl to break out his big iron and photograph your wedding day, you paid your photographer. Tell your family to keep their phones and cameras at home so they can enjoy your big day [that you spend thousands of dollars on] and let your photographer do their job. The flashes from your guests can disturb a photographer’s lighting, leaving them with fewer photos to give you in the end!

5. Dark rooms are a photographer’s worst nightmare: Just because the church is close to your house doesn’t mean that it’s going to look good in the pictures. Of course we will make it work and you’ll be pleased with your photos, but they’ll look even better if there’s plenty of natural light.

Your Guests Hate These 7 Things About Your Wedding


Roll up your pant legs, folks, because we’re about to get pretty deep into the dark and scary world of wedding planning.

As you decide on the timeline of your wedding day, there are a few crucial points you need to keep in mind. In order to keep the guests happy, there are some [stupid] traditions you need to let go. Let’s take a look at these bad boys, shall we?


1. Dismiss By Row: Cut it out. Stop it. Nope. Dismissing by row is tedious for everyone, bride and groom included. Just imagine cousin-Joe’s-girlfriend-Selena. She doesn’t know a soul, and now she has to hug you. And creepy Uncle Bill? He gets to hug you too. Not only does the breach in personal space distress most of your guests, but so does the waiting. Those suckers in the back row have to wait upwards of fifteen minutes just to be able to leave to church. People get impatient. It’s time to throw this tradition in the trash.

2. Receiving Lines: Oh my gosh, it never ends. Receiving lines are just as bad as dismissing by row, except now people have to stand on their heels for fifteen minutes instead of sitting on a hard pew. Guests don’t like receiving lines because they’re stuffy and uncomfortable. Stop including them in your wedding timeline ASAP.

Solution to items #1 and #2: Go around and greet your guests at the reception. Guests who you are close to will approach you on their own without the awkwardness, and guests you don’t know [plus ones] can quietly slip under the radar. Win-win. This solution creates a care-free atmosphere that will make your guests more comfortable.

3. Don’t Make Guests Wait Forever To Eat: Part of the draw to a wedding is the promise of a free meal. So when you take over an hour to have pictures taken all over kingdom come and your guests are left waiting at the reception, people start to get grumpy.

Solution to item #3: Take your photos before the wedding ceremony, or plan ahead with your photographer so your post-ceremony session will be quick and efficient.

4. Don’t Make Guests Drive Over 30 Minutes: “Hey guys, feel free to head to the reception site. The directions are in the back of the church. It’s about 45 minutes south of here…” People’s eyes are going to bug out of their heads if they have to drive farther than 30 minutes away to get to the reception after the ceremony. It’s inconvenient, and a little inconsiderate on the bride and groom’s side as well, especially if the guests have to drive and then wait even longer to eat.

5. Outdated dance floor music: I suspect this point might be controversial, because for some reason the Cha-Cha Slide has a huge following that I’ll never be able to understand. Every wedding for the past 10 years has played the same music, so why not switch it up? People will remember your wedding better if your tunes are unique, but still popular. No  more “Butterfly Kisses,” please.

6. Your Ceremony is Like a Sauna: If you’re getting married in the dead of summer in an un-airconditioned church, you should think about the comfort of your guests. Guests with swamp butt and legs sticking to the church pew are more likely to be grumpy than those sitting comfortably. A hot church is an unhappy church.

Solution to Item #6: Provide fans, air-conditioning units, or fans in each corner of the church. The hum of a fan is worth a little comfort.

7. Sitting Next to Strangers: It’s inevitable if you have assigned seating at your wedding. However, a good tactic to take when creating your seating chart is to ask your guests in person who they would like to sit next to. Obviously you won’t be able to speak with everyone, but knowing that Julie and Brandon want to sit next to each other will make their experience much more enjoyable and you’ll have less quiet tables.

I’ll assume that if you’re reading this, you’ve been a guest at a wedding before. What would you add to the list?